A little bit of politeness goes a long way, but some people have no idea it does. Being rude to servers, forgetting to say “Please” and “Thank you” has become a regular thing. One of the coffee shops in Grandin Village, VA, got fed up with rude customers. The barista is crying out for good manners by setting a sandwich banner with funny pricing. Don’t forget to be polite! And always remember, the server has access to your food and drinks, don’t upset him! Please, LIKE and SHARE.
It was during Renaissance, when manners started evolving. They became a response to the violence and barbarian-like behaviors in the cities. Good manners were a distinguishing trait of the privileged upper class, reinforcing social order. The newly defined codes of conduct were especially important at the dinner table. Italy more or less led the cultural revolution, table manners included. Italian poet Giovanni della Casa advised in ” Galateo,” his 1558 book on manners: “One should not comb his hair nor wash his hands in public…” Those days, forks were not in favor, so rule was: “It is most refined to use only three fingers of the hand.” Forks didn’t gain wide acceptance until the 17th century—and even then, not many could afford them. As for spoons, they were communally used. Dutch theologian Erasmus of Rotterdam wrote: “Take it on a spoon for tasting and return the spoon after wiping it on a napkin.”
The word “etiquette” was introduced into everyday English by Lord Chesterfield, a politician and diplomat. In French it meant a ticket – possibly the one shown a courtier where to sit at a ceremony. Chesterfield adopted it, though, as if it meant “small ethics”.
In 19th century having “good manners” came to be a matter of skin-deep sophistication. Victorian guides to etiquette mentioned: “When crossing the road she shouldn’t raise her dress with both hands, lest she show too much ankle.” In a volume with the title Manners and Rules of Good Society, written by “a member of the aristocracy” can be found rules for eating deserts: “Jellies, blancmanges, ice puddings, etc., should be eaten with a fork.”
The philosopher David Hume defined manners as “a kind of lesser morality, calculated for the ease of company and conversation.” Like the nameless author of Manners and Rules of Good Society wrote: “Why should we not cultivate and encourage in ourselves consideration, thoughtfulness, and graciousness towards others in the smallest details of daily life?”